1. Openly discuss fantasies
No one will know if the topic isn’t brought up. Spouses must have a few discussions about fantasies they want to live out. Your partner may be completely on board. Discussing fantasies is also a form of conversation sex play that enhances attraction and understanding of one another.
2. Maintain eye contact
Married couples have to try maintaining eye contact during sex. Doing so is very intimate. Spouses get to visually take in each other’s sexuality, sensuality, and pleasure. Connecting in such a deep way improves a couple’s sex life and impacts interpersonal communication.
3. Try sensual massage
Giving each other a sensual massage before lovemaking will promote relaxation and that relaxation will increase the flow of sensual and sexual energy. This flow improvement will also directly impact performance and intensify orgasms.
4. Get creative with foreplay
Instead of allowing yourselves to fall into your usual routine, get creative with foreplay and make it just as fun as the actual sex. Do a few things that you haven’t done before. When all is clear, walk around the house nude, playfully deny your husband/wife before giving in, or explore the many erogenous zones. There are several options to integrate into foreplay.
The 3 examples below can help
- Area between a guy’s belly button and penis is a little-known erogenous zone. Kiss, lick, and tease the area for several minutes to make him hit the roof in desire for you.
- Pop a small ice cube into your mouth during oral sex. This trick is fantastic if you’ve been going at it for awhile and need a new spicing up to reenergize him.
- While you’re making out with your man, let your mouth move over to the side of his neck, right beside his ear. The skin next to the earlobe is probably the most sensitive on his head, so feeling your lips here will make him tingly all over.
5. Use a blindfold
Taking away one of the five senses heightens the other four. This means that every breath or touch is more intense. Blindfolds also reduce inhibitions. Since eyes are not on them, the person that isn’t blindfolded is more likely to give their spouse their best. While he is blindfolded , put a dab of chocolate syrup or on at least five small spot on your body. Then challenge him to kiss your body until he finds your sweet spots.
6. Turn on the lights
Visual stimulation is sexy. This often missing component of lovemaking can turn sex that is just satisfactory to absolutely mind blowing. When your spouse goes to turn off the light, stop him and say i want to see you. If you are a bit hesitant may want to dim the lights to start. And praise his sexual performance. Eg: compliment him on what he does well, then add a subtle suggestion like, “It turns me on so much when you kiss my neck”
7. Practice your acting skills
why not spend some of your time role playing? Choose a character, get an outfit to match and see where it goes. Ideas for you include a naughty nurse, sexy police officer or French maid while men may want to be a construction worker, cop or a sexy doctor. Let your creativity flow and act up. .
8. Record yourselves
Grab a camera and place it on a spot so that it can record you and your man in the heat of the moment. Whether you watch it or not, it isn’t the point — just knowing you’re being recorded will bring out your erotic sides. But if you do plan to watch it, here’s a hint: Turn the lights down or light some candles before filming. Watching a naughty video that has good lighting is a little too graphic for some people.
9.Daytime dirty talk
Anticipation often leads to great sex. During the day, exchange a few dirty emails or texts with your spouse to get each other ready for the evening ahead. This ensures that once the two of you are together again, there will be nothing but good times.
10. Try a new position
A new position is often just the thing married couples need to boost the desire to have sex more often. Couples are supposed to explore sexuality as both partners and individuals. Most have at least one they’ve wanted to try.
11. Have a quickie
Quickies are the perfect solution for couples that blame a lack of time as the reason for their compromised sex life. They allow couples to get that physical fulfillment and connection in less time. As a plus, quickies are delightfully naughty.
12. Try a new location
Whether you have fantasized about making love in the hot tub, pool, car or somewhere else outdoors, go for it. Even another room in the house will do. All married couples making love benefit when they try to do it in a location other than their bedroom. It ensures that boredom doesn’t ensue.