As a mom, it’s easy to lose yourself in the day to day activities of family life. With the kids out of school for their summer vacation, you might have a lot more work to do. Chores like preparing several meals a day, laundry, keeping the kids under control, struggling with office duties and so much more will often come before our much needed personal time and space. But having some time to yourself is a very essential part of being a good mother. So if you have self-care at the bottom of your to-do list or maybe it has never made it to your list, it’s time to place it at the very top. It really is not impossible to be healthy, look great and enjoy a happy life while juggling family and career.
Even if you have the busiest schedule, you can still squeeze in some time to attend to your own needs everyday. Take advantage of the early mornings before the kids wake up. Have a quick meditation, do simple exercises, read something from a book, write in a journal or just take a few deep breaths. You can start with as little as ten minutes dedicated to yourself alone. It will go a long way. You can also plan out a night time self-care routine before going to bed.
Do Away With Every Form of Guilt
Most moms struggle with feelings of guilt when they take some time away from family to practice self-care. You might actually never get around to your own needs if you keep feeling guilty about it. It’s absolutely not selfish to make yourself a priority and show yourself some love.
Stay Connected to Yourself
Try not to lose yourself in all the day’s work and family needs that seem to increase each day. Think about the things that give you joy and squeeze in time to do some of them. You might not be able to do all the exact same activities you used to before having kids, but you can always find alternatives. Pursue your favourite hobbies. Find some time and space to read that book you love.
Don’t ignore your skin too. Simplify your beauty routines for easy access. Get long-lasting hairstyles that will require less maintenance but still look good. Remember, when we look good, we feel good.
Staying connected to our own well-being radiates even to our children and we feel more joyful, patient, and full of life.
Prioritize sleep and exercise
Most of the time, you want to get stuff done before the kids wake up so you end up losing more sleep than you get. Research studies have shown that lack of sleep can trigger an increased appetite, which could in turn cause weight gain and increase the risk of depression and other adverse health consequences. Create a regular bedtime routine that works for you and your kids and stick to it. Some chores can wait, really.
You also need to get your body moving. It doesn’t have to be a lot of hours at the gym. Check out some YouTube videos and sweat it out at home. Let your kids join you and make it a bonding moment. You can address their needs or questions, talk about school or how your day went while you exercise together.
Pay Attention to Your Health
Most mothers tend to ignore their body’s signals and neglect the need for medical attention and this can lead to some serious health problems. Don’t wait till you fall terribly ill before you schedule annual check ups, get pap smears, check your vision or just do a full body check up once in a while. Make your health a priority just like your kids’ health is.
Also, pay attention to your nutrition. Remember, good food fuels the body. So
nourish your body with proper healthy foods. Avoid fast foods and try to cook at home more often. Ditch soda and drink lots of water instead. Stock your fridge up with healthy meals for the week to make things easier for you.
Yes, you don’t have to be in charge of everything all the time. We often feel we have to be at the forefront of everything because we think we are the only ones who can do it right. We are then left dangerously drained at the end of every day.
Try leaving the kids with their father or grandparents sometimes while you go out to have some fun and catch up with your girlfriends. You can also employ the services of a nanny or babysitter to reduce the workload on you.
When mommy is stressed out, she becomes cranky and irritable and this can affect the whole family. A baby can become fussy because its mother is upset. Even older kids can respond to your burnouts by acting out and increasing the tension. Taking out ten minutes or an hour to do whatever makes you feel good won’t do you any harm, instead it will make your life easier. Pay a little more attention to your own needs and you’ll be better at meeting your family’s needs.
What other ways do you find time for self-care as a mum? Share with us in the comment box below!